Dating 101: Learn How You Can Get a Date in 3 Steps

Are you the type of person who has never gone out on a date? Do you find it difficult to ask someone out? Most of all, is going out on a date one of the scariest things you would ever do, and yet there is this person you are dying to ask out? Then here’s the perfect guide to help you get a date-and how to survive one.

First: Learn where to get a date. If you want to experience how it is like to go on a date but you don’t have anyone in mind to ask out, then here are the places you can go to:

• Friends! You can always ask one of your friends out, at least to for you to feel less awkward, as you two already know each other as friends. Supposing you two don’t know each other that well except for hanging out with a bigger group, then this would be a great time for the two of you to get to know each other in a more personal level.
• Friends of friends. We are already at the internet age, and thanks to Web 2.0, we can now connect with our friends’ friends through social networks such as Facebook and MySpace. Be careful though, these people are practically strangers and you basically have no idea about them aside from what their profiles say and that they are friends of your friends. Better ask your common friends first and ditch some information before going your way to ask them out.
• Chat rooms. Most people have been addicted to chatting over the past decade, thanks to the internet. If you are one of these people, you may have already built a network of friends online, but have never seen them yet in person. If you happen to have close chat friends who live in nearby areas, then this may be the best time to ask them out, so that you two can finally hang out in person.
• Speed dating. Some sponsored events hold speed dating in clubs or bars, just to add some spice to the usual Friday-Saturday party nights. You can join those events if you happen to be present at that time, and who knows, you may just find your match. You will also get some cheers from your friends and other spectators as they are witnesses to your search for a match that night.

Second: How to ask your date out. If you can’t help yourself but stand frozen as you plan to ask your prospect out on a date, here are some tips that might just help you:

• Relax. Take it easy. Your date won’t bite. Just act casual and ask the person as easy as you can.
• Say it with sweets. Do some research. What does your prospective date like? Giving something your target date likes would add more points and increase your chances of you two going out.
• Begin with a good conversation. If you happen to be friends with the person you’re going to ask, it’s best that you build rapport first, so that your friend won’t be taken by surprise.
• Do something that can touch your prospect’s emotions. This would require the help of luck, but given the right place and time, your simple act concern such as offering an umbrella on an unexpected rainy afternoon, or getting him or her a cup of coffee during a cold day might just do the trick.

Third: Learn what to do on the date itself. Suppose your prospect date said yes, what should you do next?

• Be yourself. Whether the date’s in a few hours or set this coming weekend, don’t get too overexcited and just stay calm. Don’t make a big fuss over it, otherwise you won’t be able to act normal especially when you’re together.
• Dress according to the occasion. Do not ever overdress. You’ll not only look stupid-you’ll make your date look stupid too. Try to dress normal, unless the occasion calls for you to style up. Show your date the natural you, with no pretentions whatsoever. This will help your partner see more of what you’ve got and as well as the possibilities of you two going into the next level.
• Enjoy the company. Be accommodating, and when things get boring, try to break the ice-but not too much. Ask your date what he/she likes, and give in. After all, you’re the one who asked for the date. If you see that your date’s still unsatisfied after giving to the favor, then it just shows that you two won’t work out.
• Finally, thank your date for the time spent with you. Regardless if the date turned out well or horrible, thank your partner. It’s a sign of respect. Who knows… that can be the start of a new bond between the two of you.